Hello and thank you for visiting my website. Whether you are awaiting the arrival of your baby or have a new baby – congratulations! I hope you are enjoying this wonderful journey while still finding time for yourself.
My name is Alexandra Heavey and I am a Doula UK recognised birth doula, postnatal doula, fully accredited antenatal and KG Hypnobirthing teacher and mother of 5 children and I love what I do! I love supporting parents before, during and after the birth of their babies, providing them with the support, information, confidence and peace of mind and the ability to relax that they want and need so that they can progress happily on what is such a wonderful, exciting and emotional journey, enjoying their or their partner’s pregnancy, their baby’s birthday and blossoming into happy, healthy families.
While I was at university I started working as a part-time nanny just by chance. But what started as a ‘temporary, part-time nannying role’ that was supposed to just fund my student days ended up with a career that saw me falling in love with all the children and babies that I was lucky enough to care for, working as a nanny for a lot longer than I intended to, until ten years later when it came to a natural end as I chose to start my own family.
I live in a house filled with constant noise, toys, running and pounding little feet and lots of little cuddles, kisses and giggles that can brighten any grey day (as well as a fair share of tantrums and strops).
I have always wanted to have a large family of my own, so I was devastated when I was told that my husband and I had a less than 5% chance of conceiving naturally. Luckily after IVF, my perfectly healthy and happy son, James, was born naturally and very quickly in 2011. Thankfully I did not have to undergo any further IVF procedures and my family grew when my daughter, Isabelle, was born in 2013, followed by my youngest son, William, born in 2016 and then my identical twin girls, Olivia and Charlotte were born in 2019 (and yes, I would still like to possibly have another child, though I would end up having to drive a bus!). I will always treasure and look back on all of my pregnancies and labours with pride and happiness and a feeling that I have learnt something from each one that I can use to help and support the families I work with.
With five young children my days are always entertaining and varied but usually involve Lego, baking (I promise myself I will start my ‘diet’ each Monday) kinetic sand, arts and crafts, singing Disney tunes and playing ‘mummies and daddies’. Add to this a dog that constantly wants to play and cuddle with the cats and the three cats which actually very strongly dislike this very playful dog, my home may often be mistaken for a noisy, madhouse albeit one filled with lots of love and laughter. I live very close to my family in Wimbledon and I am lucky in that they too are always more than willing to come and join in the playful mayhem at a moment’s notice.
Although my five little monkeys keep me entertained, when I have time to myself I love to simply be with my family and friends, watching a film, sharing a takeaway, going out to dinner or simply going for a long walk with the dogs on Wimbledon Common or in Richmond Park or locking myself away with a good book or interesting research paper and a mug of ridiculously fattening hot chocolate with whipped cream and marshmallows and one of my home-baked cupcakes (or 2 or 3). My life may not be wild and filled with daring adventures (though I miss going travelling at a whimsy a lot and hope to get back to diving, having dived a number of spectacular dive sites around the world) but it makes me happy and I feel so lucky to be able to spend every day watching my children grow and develop and the love to and from my family has made me who I am today and I am able to appreciate simple treats like a mug of hot(!) tea and five minutes of rare silence or occasionally getting to go to the bathroom alone, not followed by one, two or three children.
I am constantly on the look-out for courses and workshops to attend. I have attended a number of various ones such as rebozo, Thai yoga pregnancy massage, breastfeeding and hypnotherapy courses as well as regular courses to keep my First Aid certificate up to date. I enjoy reading research papers (such as why hypnotherapy works, the brains affect on the sympathetic system) and books related to pregnancy, birth and the postnatal period (the fourth trimester). I am always trying to broaden my knowledge and find further inspiration and ideas that I can share with you and the more I learn about it all the more I want to keep learning about it. Just as every baby is different so is every birth, parent and family.
I believe my desire to nurture and help and my ability to protect and care for others, as well as my knowledge, both personal and professional, of pregnancy, labour and life with a newborn are the reasons that I am delighted and proud to be a doula and an antenatal and hypnobirthing teacher.